It’s no wonder blood makes you kin, but loyalty makes you family. Growing up, I always saw all my relatives split up or take sides instead of sticking together. And I’m sure many of you can relate to this. So, I realized a long time ago that I had to build my own circle.
Do you have a relative that you rarely talk to or rarely see? Why is loyalty more important than family? Can you trust people who are firmly involved in your life? Do you have friends who understand your goals and are there when you need them most?
As a child, he is taught that whatever happens, he must always choose his family first. But then, over the years, you realize that the people who cause you the most pain are not the ones you don’t know, but the ones you often trust the most. All blood does is relate to you, but it is loyalty that creates a true family.
If you could give just one suggestion before moving on, it is to always trust your instincts. So if you feel like something is wrong, it usually is. And if I decided to talk about this issue today, it is because, over the years, I realize that my blood family was never there for me, but that a few friends were and still are.
Family concepts
The idea of a family can be interpreted in many different ways. It can range from your parents who gave you life, to brothers and sisters, to all other blood relatives. But it can also be defined as your close friends. It is the people in your life who inspire you to be better, and they usually care about what happens to you.
So the actual definition of family is considered “loyalty.” These people take care of you when things go wrong. They are ready to fight by your side or when you cannot, and they are prepared to endure the heat if the world is against you. Your closest people, your most precious people are what the concept of family is all about.
And yes, they can be friends, comrades, blood relatives, in-laws, and the like. It is your choice, your life, as long as they are with you always. You and your family members are connected by blood, but it does not always mean trust, love, and loyalty. And sometimes those feelings, when they do occur, may not even be real.
Blood vs. Loyalty
The people who comfort you when everyone else is bringing you down, the people who save your life, even at the risk of losing their own, and the friends who help you, are your family. Blood can make someone a relative, but it doesn’t mean you care. A family is not always what you think.
So the original definition of family no longer applies today. You should never feel bad or have to explain why you sometimes choose loyalty over blood relatives. There is no need for excuses if you want to get people out of your life who don’t treat you the way you deserve.
As a result, a real family includes friends, real friends, even if they are not related. They are the ones by your side when the rest of the world collapses. These people support you in your struggles and help you get up. And they don’t judge you or turn their back on you, even if they may think you’re a little crazy or disagree with you all the time.
A family is what you do
So, like loyalty, a family has to be like a rock. I never had the best father, brother, or loving relative. There were only two relatives who counted for me in my life, and they were my mother and my grandfather. The rest treated me like trash, drove me crazy and considered myself a complete stranger after 30 years living all over the world.
While living in the US, my wealth grew steadily, so my brother or aunt contacted me for help when they were in financial trouble. I gladly helped, even if I didn’t hear from them for years. But one day, I got into a fight and needed help, but when they called me, none of my blood relatives responded.
So just because you are my relative does not mean that you are my family. I was considered the black sheep just because I dared to think outside the box. It’s not acceptable for people to disappear when your life isn’t going the way they are and then reappear when you’re doing the things they think are cool. A family is what you make, so choose wisely.
Fake family and friends
Some people claim to be one thing and are actually another. When given a chance to stand up and show what they claim to be, they run to the other side or do the opposite. The people I can count on in this world, I can add them on the one hand. It takes courage to be loyal!
“Fake friends are like shadows. They follow you when you walk in the sun, but they leave you once you are in the dark.” – A stranger
A royal family is a small group of people who fight with you when they go through the darkness of life and love you no matter what. When the world turns against you, loyalty remains by your side and helps you overcome life’s mistakes. And let’s not forget that these are the best people to celebrate existence as well.
Loyalty makes you family
If you’re like me, some people will be the most loyal friends you’ll ever have. The true family is made to build you up and not to tear you down. They are there to support you in everything you do, even if they don’t always fully agree with your choices.
So if some people are always there and would go to the end of the world for you, that shows family. Blood doesn’t play a big role, loyalty does. Just being there and being loyal makes you a part of what a family means.
And that’s why loyalty plays an important role. Do what is right! You don’t want someone in your life just because you’re related. But he loves them because he has built a relationship on a stronger foundation, and that is more important than his last name.
My last word on family and loyalty
It’s sad that disloyal family or friends now miss out on all the good things that are happening in my life and all the future events that are about to happen. I have forgiven them, but I will never forget them. Lesson learned!
So, do the same, create your own fantastic family that never fails to make sure your well-being is the priority. Build a circle of people who won’t turn their back on you and who will do whatever you need to, plus you do the same for them. Those are the people you want in your life and whom you can call your family.
In the end, a family is not a title; it’s loyalty, love, trust, respect, and trusting and knowing without a doubt that some people will be there for you. So blood may make you related, but it shouldn’t mean anything to you. And positively it shouldn’t be defined as the sole reason for a family.
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