If you are a woman dating a man and find yourself frequently waiting for his call, you are actually hurting your chances of a long-term relationship with him. Most women know that pretty much everything they do in a dating situation affects how a man sees them. If you sit patiently waiting for his call day after day, you are sending him a clear message about yourself that is not very flattering.

Waiting for his call may seem like what any considerate woman would do when she’s crazy about a man, but it really isn’t. It is inconsiderate of a man to say that she will call and then not. As women, we tend to give the man we love the benefit of the doubt and excuse his behavior by deciding that he has been too busy or that other things have come up. The truth of the matter is that if your man had a crush on you, he would call you often. I would also ask you to call him. When you make it clear to him that you have nothing better to do than wait to hear from him, his level of interest in you will drop dramatically.

If you’re always waiting for his call, and finally you call him to ask why he hasn’t contacted you, you’re hurting things even more. Doing this makes you look desperate before the man of your life. The best thing to do when a man won’t get back to you when he says he will is to focus on other things. Don’t call him, don’t email him, and don’t text him. Pretend you’ve forgotten his contact information if you have to, but never make the first move. You want him to see that you’re not patiently waiting for him to decide what’s next in your relationship. Instead, you’re showing him that you’re fine without him. When a man feels this from the woman in his life, he will work harder to keep her affection.