In my economics studies at university, I learned a few things about supply and demand, product scarcity, and perceived value. As I became more involved with people and their relationship challenges, I soon realized that these simple economic rules apply to relationships as well. You might want to hear what I have to say if you’ve ever wondered, “How can I get the man I want?”

First of all, you must learn to be available to your man, but not too available. There is a fine line or balance between being too available and becoming scarce. You see, in economics, a desired product that becomes scarce commands a higher price. That scarcity makes the product even more desirable and valuable. This is simple economics and it can teach you something about relationships.

Dangers of Familiarity in a Relationship

Familiarity can be terribly disastrous in any relationship. This is most clearly seen in families when people are together most of the time. The ties of love and family can be strained to the limit in these relationships, especially if some members of the family are a source of tension or problems. Although they love each other, families sometimes fall apart due to this ongoing familiarity. The same applies to relationships between men and women. Too much familiarity can strain or even destroy the strongest relationships. As the saying goes, “familiarity breeds contempt.”

Being available and keeping him curious: a balance

As with most things in life, too much of anything can be bad and the same goes for relationships. This is especially true with men in relationships. Men see everything as a challenge or a quest, and that includes women. The trick here is to strike the right balance between being totally available to him and keeping him in a constant state of curiosity. Men tend to lose interest in women who are not challenging. These men may eventually lose interest and leave a relationship altogether.

Make yourself less available and your man will see you as a challenge to be won, a woman worth pursuing. Remember, you have to find the balance between full availability and scarcity for this to work for you. For example, instead of saying yes to every one of their requests, say no from time to time. From time to time, tell him that you have other priorities, that you have other relationships that are also important; In short, be less available and let him know that he is important, but not all important.

The value or curiosity in your relationship

You may have heard the old expression: “Absence makes the heart grow fond.” I discovered this to be true when my true love and I were separated for three months by several thousand miles during summer vacation. We loved each other and couldn’t wait to be together: the curiosity and desire to be together were so strong that we could hardly stand it. Without that involuntary separation, this intense curiosity would not have occurred. Needless to say, it was a horrible summer, but it brought us together and this scarcity made our relationship stronger.

There are many other things I have learned from my own relationship and from those couples I have counseled over the years. The only thing I wish I had done was seek the help of someone who had been down the road of relationships before and could educate me on some of the potential roadblocks, potholes, and dangers there.