Because I am in the business of helping men create a happier and more sexual marriage relationship, I have had men from all over the world ask me this question: “How do I get my wife to initiate sex?”
Many of these men had given up all hope that their wives would ever take the initiative in sexual initiation.
But, what they actually discovered was that when they learned to do certain things a certain way, their wife began to initiate sex FREQUENTLY, sometimes even to the point where they had a hard time keeping up with their sexual desire! his wife!
This is just one of the things I revealed to these men that made such a difference in their lives…
As a general rule, sex is more of an emotional encounter with women, while it is more of a physical incident with men.
Now, I knew that, but as far as you and your wife are concerned, really think about what that means…
It means that while you ARE WAITING for your wife to initiate sex, while you are waiting for your wife to initiate a physical incident with you, SHE IS WAITING for you to initiate a pleasurable, exciting and emotional encounter with HER!
In other words, she is waiting for you to do something affectionate with her. She is waiting for you to say something sweet to her. She is waiting for you to behave in a loving way with her.
In short, YOUR wife is WAITING for you to start what SHE wants so she can start what YOU want.
You see it? You and your wife are literally at an IMPASSE. You’re at a standstill waiting for each other to start.
Fortunately, there are a few simple things you can start doing right away that will clear this deadlock fairly quickly… they’re not very flashy or fancy… they’re actually quite menial… and they’re INCREDIBLY POWERFUL ways of breaking the deadlock. output between you and your wife:
o Start telling your wife that she is beautiful every day.
o Begin to notice and acknowledge the things your wife does well.
o Start congratulating your wife in front of other people.
o Start doing useful things around the house without being asked.
o Begin to be more nurturing and nurturing with the children in the house.
These are as basic as they come… AND THEY WORK!
This is what this means more…
Bypassing the emotional encounter and going straight to the physical incident means that, for a woman, having sex is essentially like getting into another “project” or “chore,” not unlike cleaning house.
Cleaning the house is something that has to be done. It is something that may be part of your responsibility. But if the emotional aspect is missing, SHE WILL NOT ENJOY IT!
In other words, things that are full of positive emotional content are pleasant for a woman. Things that lack emotional content are unpleasant for a woman.
And so, when you avoid an emotional encounter with your wife and head straight for a physical incident, YOUR WIFE WILL NOT ENJOY IT.
Women don’t initiate what they don’t enjoy!
This is what this means more…
Begin to resolve, absolve, and dissolve the conflicts and arguments that are coming between you and your wife by first apologizing for your hurtful words and actions toward her. Sure, there may be a lot of things she owes you an apology for, but YOU have to be the one to take the lead and lead.
Then work to establish a loving emotional connection with your wife. And remember, women do NOT resolve conflicts by having sex: that’s a man’s way and NOT a woman’s way.
It can make a lot of sense for a man to “fix things” by going to the bedroom. But for a woman who is angry or hurt, the idea of getting intimate and having sex with someone who made her angry or hurt her feelings makes the negative emotions she is experiencing vibrate even more negatively.
But, after you’ve taken the initiative and established a positive emotional connection with your wife, THEN she’s ready to go to the bedroom.
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