It’s a sad thought to let a relationship slip away, but if you really want your husband to know that the spark is fading, that he’s losing you, read on:

Spend time away from him.

Taking a long vacation will help you see things from another perspective. You can take the time to assess your feelings and the situation, as well as to see if you are really losing interest or just need time to yourself. It will also let you know that you are getting tired of being around and that you need time off.

Start putting your life in order.

If you see yourself living a life without your partner, then you need to start planning for your future. If you are a stay at home mom, then you need to start a business or get a job. If your husband sees that you are beginning to prepare for a life without him, then he might wake up to the situation.

Control your emotions.

Never get into emotional outbursts or fight with him. Your patience may be much shorter now than ever, but you need to be emotionally stable to go through this critical phase in your relationship. Don’t blame him for the fact that you’re losing interest, or make him feel like it’s his fault that the marriage is falling apart.

Treat him more like a friend.

You don’t need to be enemies – your relationship may be fading, but you can still go on to love him platonically. There will be less intimacy and no fun in bed, but you can still enjoy each other’s company.

Don’t try to fake affection.

Pretending that you still love him like you used to won’t do any good. It will be a fight for you and a puzzle for him. Respect him as a person, as an individual, and don’t try to fool him into thinking that nothing is wrong. Don’t give him false hope. Be realistic.

Let him know some of your plans.

You have made plans without consulting him, you have dreams that do not include him, you move on with your life without him … letting him know your plans is a big step for him to realize that he is losing you. .

Tell him.

This is the safest way … but if you intend to tell them, make sure that you are emotionally stable and that you can accept the consequences.