If men and women wanted the same thing, there would be no sexual politics. Men and women are at odds because they want different things from each other. Most women want loving companionship and family. It is this desire to have children that continues to make women dependent on men. Women need something to offer in return. That thing is sex. Anyone who suggests that pleasure is equal does not understand the laws of nature.

Men are taller, heavier, and stronger than women. Women don’t fight like men. Only a very naive person would suggest that men don’t use this physical advantage to get what they want from women. Men do not encourage women to work. In fact, men openly admit that they like women to be financially dependent on them. Men know that they can use this financial advantage to make women feel obligated to offer them regular sex in return.

Women’s desire for affectionate companionship drives their desire to have relationships with men. But given the tendency of men to focus their life efforts on their own goals, women often want children too. Women’s drive to have children is not as immediately obvious or urgent as men’s sexual drive, but it nonetheless aids in successful reproduction. It is an amazing phenomenon and it is not entirely clear how it arises. Women enjoy intimate company, which men rarely provide. Women also like to take care of the cute pets and small children that depend on them.

Men’s views on sex are much more politically compelling. Men heavily promote their own point of view because it is vitally important to them. Sexual politics is created by men’s desire to have sex. Men will not accept what women say about sex unless it agrees with their own point of view. Specifically, they want to hear that a woman wants to have sex just as much as they do.

Men are not attracted to all women. They are attracted to women who are sexually willing. Of course, men are confident that their view of sex will prevail. Women are too embarrassed to offer their own take on sex.

Men have always defined women’s sexuality for them. Men assume that they have sexual instincts that women lack. Men own the concept of the female orgasm. The ego of “You obviously haven’t met the right man to make you orgasm!” indicates the male perspective. Some female politicians also support the male view of female sexuality in order to be popular with men.

Men want to believe that women can orgasm through intercourse because this could make them more sexually amenable. But this is not logical. The evidence of the female orgasm would be the enthusiasm of women for intercourse. Pornography acts as an emotional security blanket that reassures men that women are always willing to have sex to ensure their sexual outlet.

Male propaganda far outweighs any attempt by women to correct men. This is due to several reasons.

• Men’s interest in talking about sex ad nauseam far outweighs women’s extremely low or negative interest in the subject.

• Men are physically and psychologically more energetic than women, so they can use brute force to get their own opinion heard.

• Women want to be attractive to men. They can only do this by quietly ignoring men’s claims that the sex is fantastic.

• Women depend on men’s support to have children. So women have an emotional investment in their relationship with a man.

Ask a woman in any developing country and she will tell you that sex is for male pleasure and for making babies. Try asking a woman in a developed country the same question and you’ll get silence. In our bravado-driven society, women don’t want to feel subjugated by men. The female orgasm justifies the role of women in an activity that focuses on male pleasure. The fact that women’s lifestyles are subsidized by their partners is overlooked.

Research has shown that trying to brainwash women into thinking they can enjoy sex as much as men does not lead to more sex for men. The idea that women should enjoy sex existed before any research was done. But this belief was always a male view. Men’s sexual drive means they are dependent on women for sex, and the sex industry sells a fanciful view of women’s sexuality.

Men gloat about the sexual pleasure they enjoy and, even worse, they brag about the sexual pleasure they think women enjoy. They never notice that such jubilation is one-sided. Male propaganda silences women because of the implied sexual inadequacy. Women get tired of men talking about the pleasure they enjoy without any sensitivity to the fact that women’s minds and bodies don’t respond in the same way. Very few women talk about orgasm. Women ensure that sexual references in their presence are avoided by showing their absent-mindedness non-verbally. Silent abstention is easy and keeps the peace. Most people would be tempted by an offer of financial security for life. This is what marriage represents for women. There is little to be gained by facing a conflict with a man who provides for the family.

As the Redstockings women’s group put it, for many women marriage is one of the few forms of employment available. (Hits 1993)