By working with magnets, you will quickly learn that opposite poles attract. This means that the negatively charged pole will be attracted to the positively charged pole and the two will connect with very little effort from the user. The same rule applies with chemistry. Negatively charged particles will be attracted to positively charged particles. Why? Because negatively charged particles have something that positively charged particles want.
The same happens with people. Sometimes people who are very similar get together and live a happy existence; they enjoy the same music, have the same values, and do the same activities on Friday nights. They have the same group of friends and attend the same church every Sunday morning.
Sometimes this is not the case and two people who are polar opposites get together. Usually this is because one or the other has something the other wants. A person who is generally very cynical and pessimistic may be attracted to someone with a sense of eternal optimism. An individual who has spent his entire life following society’s dictated rules for proper behavior may be attracted to a free spirit who is content to live his life the way he sees fit, regardless of the opinions of others.
Such phosphors can sometimes become volatile, resulting in an explosion and accompanying secondary damage. Other times they can balance each other, as in the case of positively and negatively charged electrons; the particles are neutralized when mixed. These coincidences have long puzzled psychologists and others who look at these relationships from a purely subjective point of view. How can two people who have nothing in common form a strong and successful relationship? What they don’t realize is that it’s just another example of nature’s principles of selection in action.
Forming a relationship with someone who is your polar opposite will not always be easy, no matter how well you complement each other. You are going to have different points of view on different topics and different lifestyles. The most important factors in this type of relationship are patience and understanding. Remember that you knew they were very different from you when you chose to start this relationship; you can’t expect them to change now.
Before you choose to commit permanently to someone who is your opposite, there are a few questions you’ll need to answer. What are their differences in the things that matter? (home, children, etc.) Can you be happy with these differences? If the answer to the second question is no, it would be wise to take a step back from the relationship before committing to something you can’t back down from. If, on the other hand, the answer is yes, get ready to enjoy a life that, although it will never be quiet, will certainly never be boring.
