Are you one of those people that others call a good listener? It’s a wonderful compliment, but it always left you feeling a little inadequate. That’s because you knew something they didn’t: it’s not that you were such a good listener, you were just afraid to open your mouth.
Cheer up, it’s okay to be shy. But, since I was a super shy girl myself, I understand your desire to contribute. There’s a natural part to not being able to connect when you can’t verbalize your thoughts. In an effort to gain access to the divine inspiration that is locked within you, here are five surefire ways to bring yourself out of your shell:
1. Write and read around what you wrote. The topic is less important than what you do every day. Get in the habit of writing down your thoughts and feelings as you experience them. Do you feel nervous? Write it. You feel lonely? Write it. Give yourself permission to slow down enough to feel. From which part of your body does this feeling emanate? What makes you want to do? If you feel like crying, then cry. Keep a notepad and pen near your bed, by the toilet, on your kitchen counter, on your coffee table. If no words appear, draw symbols or jagged lines. The idea is to allow yourself a constructive outlet. If you express yourself when you are alone, you will feel more comfortable expressing yourself with others. Enjoy this inspiring exercise and know that the more you do it, the greater your spiritual healing will be. This is the law of attraction in action!
2. Connect to the Internet and participate in the forums. Join conversations that you find interesting. Are you interested in meditation? Tai Chi? Astrology? If a discussion group currently going on isn’t exactly to your liking, start your own. This is better anyway. Use your voice and don’t be afraid to express your opinion. People like a bit of controversy and appreciate honest interaction.
3. Read. Magazines can be great because the information is often current. Newspapers are always good because they will keep you up to date with what is happening in the world. And fiction is wonderful because it entertains and makes your imagination take you places you normally wouldn’t have gone. If you find an article or author you love, Google it. This type of research can be fun and will provide you with information that you will be passionate about, information that will be great to share with others.
4. Take a community college course. The class can be anything from screenwriting to pottery to yoga. Pick something creative to spark your sense of fun. Chances are the others in the class aren’t learning like you are, so you don’t have to feel shy about not knowing what you’re doing. If you’re not clear on an assignment or what the ground rules are for the classroom, be sure to ask. Being an adult at school can be much more fun than being a child. There are no parents waiting at home to make sure you do your homework.
5. Take a public speaking class. There is a wonderful organization, Toastmasters, whose members take turns facing each other and making presentations. The speakers do their thing and the public gives feedback. The rules of conduct state that three compliments should always be given first, followed by a constructive comment. This is a great way to get your feet wet in a supportive atmosphere.
These steps have been written in the order that is easiest for you to perform. Overcoming shyness is not a quick fix. Years of conditioning have told her that his voice isn’t good enough or smart enough. This can create emotional scars. Healing begins with knowing who you really are. Recognize that you deserve to be heard: you are a unique and creative being, cut from the same divine pattern as those you most admire. Think of your words as a gift. And don’t forget the universal Law of Attraction: your generous sense of sharing will attract others with the same generous spirit. Share this gift just as you share our inner source.
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