If you’re lucky, he’s left a few hints about the things he wants (like that new laptop bag), but if you need to ask, you probably won’t get much out of him. He tries to get clues as to what he’d like to get and you’ll probably get the dreaded “I don’t care,” “It doesn’t matter,” or worst of all, “Let’s forget about it” response. Instead of giving in and resorting to the typical (boring) gift options, spend some time thinking about HIM and what he enjoys. And remember, men share this with women: they both have desires for things they want very much but don’t justify buying for themselves. So if you know the secret desire he’s been harboring for those flashy new wheels, bingo, you’ve nailed it.
As with all gifts, the most important thing when choosing the perfect gift is to make it all about the person you’re honoring, so choose a gift that matches their personality: practical or romantic, sweet and sensitive, playful or cheesy, – It has to be about him. Consider her interests and how she likes to spend her time, then choose a gift that’s a good match.
If you’re thinking of getting him something to wear, forget about the itchy sweater that you think makes him look adorable; You may use it to please, but that’s not what a “perfect” gift is all about. Instead, get him something that makes him look and feel manly (like designer sunglasses).
Remember that your time and all your attention are a large part of the best gift you can give a man, so if you are a woman honoring the father of your children, remember that small acts of affirmation and devotion will increase their self-esteem and emotional security and are intensely meaningful, either alone or as a backdrop for a gift that comes with a bow at the top. ‘Hanging Time Together’ gifts are a great option for Father’s Day, as long as it’s an activity you enjoy and doesn’t involve a lot of demanding preparation. Insider Tip: Tickets to a baseball game are often a better option than a fancy brunch (most guys would rather move than sit around and chat).
Speaking of gifts presented with a bow, remember that gadgets and technology are the gift of choice for men, which is the equivalent of diamonds for women.
Honor him by acknowledging his interests. If he’s crazy about sports, his car, or classical music, choose a gift that shows you care enough about him to pay attention to what he loves. Making it special may just be a matter of upgrading it: Instead of buying a basic tool, choose a Lee Valley craft-style tool; Instead of a book, present her with an autographed first edition—whatever it takes to make her realize you think she’s special.
Whether you’re a master griller or an avid golfer, and you choose one of those passions as your theme, be sure to add a touch of creativity to your gift. Pick something unique (or customize something that isn’t). Or give him something else that celebrates his ingenuity, creativity, or abilities, like a new set of woodworking tools or a model assembly kit that ties into his fascination with boats.
Memorabilia can be a great Father’s Day gift if you love a particular period: the ’50s, the Beatles era, Woodstock, the ’80s; He’ll love receiving a gift that reminds him of the good old days. If you’re a collector, an addition to your collection of Victorian coins, stamps or paperweights might be ‘perfect’, but make sure you do your homework on what your collection is missing, and most importantly, make sure you can change it. (This is one of the rare times I recommend considering a gift certificate.)
For gifts from little boys, what dad isn’t proud to display his handmade treasures on his dresser or on his desk at the office? Handmade crafts fill the budgets of young children and offer a creative outlet for their boundless creativity and love (plus, shopping for craft supplies can be a nice experience to share with mom). For store-bought gifts, personalized items that pay homage to your daddy status make the ‘perfect’ gifts: ‘My Dad’ picture frames, acrylic etched photos, personalized cufflinks, tie clip or watch – all can hit the nail on the head .
If you’re helping your son choose a Father’s Day gift and the quote says “socks or tie,” don’t give in to temptation. (If there’s anything more tiresome than this gift idea, I can’t think of what.) Instead, teach your child to think about what dad would really like. He doesn’t have to be expensive. How about a calendar inspired by a passionate interest or a place he loves? The gift will not only be a hit with Dad, but it will also teach your son an important lesson about giving meaningful gifts.
Happy shopping!
