Much has been written about how to get your ex back. There is even a best-selling e-book on the internet called “how to get your ex back.” However, I believe in the old philosophy “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure”, in other words, why wait until you’ve lost it to try to get it back? That seems like a lot of trouble and unnecessary distress.

So how can we prevent her current boyfriend from becoming our ex-boyfriend?

Actually, you start by understanding a very simple and rudimentary principle. First let me ask you what you think makes men commit to and stay with a woman:

1. Her beauty

2. Her sexy body

3. Good sex

4. Your personality

5. Her character: inner beauty

If you answer any of the above questions, I must tell you that you are only partially correct. You may have some, most, or all of the above and men will still drop you.

Men love, are attracted to and stick with you not because of your cute face, sexy body, perky boobs and striking smile or even personality. All of these help attract your attention, but do little to secure your long-term commitment.

A man loves you and will remain committed to you because of how you make him feel when he is with you. If you make him feel proud, happy, respected, challenged, and great, he will never go away.

Someone told me that the motivator, Tony Robbins (who by the way sells a lot of relationship-related products) said that he divorced his ex-wife because he felt small in his own home. While I cannot verify this, I know that many men will walk a million miles away from the most beautiful and sexy woman if she does not admire, acknowledge and adore him.

How can you do this? Just find something every day that you admire about him and tell him about it. Show your appreciation for anything and everything he does for you, even the little things. Support him in his aspirations, goals and desires.

This does not mean that you should put up with him and accept nonsense. In fact, you also need someone to challenge and stretch you. However, this must be done with tact and skill. It is a grave mistake to waste a man’s self-respect and pride. Remember that even macho men have a tender spirit. Be firm but gentle. Tell him when he hurts you and how you feel about it. He will respect this, however, he will despise you if you add his manhood and masculinity to it.

Two of the things to avoid at all costs are criticism and anger. Nothing can drain a man’s love and admiration for you than these. Show love and tenderness. And remember that sometimes love must be tough.