Now some men can be six feet tall, possess a platinum card, retain a driver’s license, be able to die for our country, and legally ride up to the bar stool; but it does not guarantee that they are adults. These are owls and ravens with degrees. Or Monkeys with wigs. Then others are more like Pinocchio falling from addiction, abuse and prison.

In some cases, they are not even teenagers yet. But they are still children waiting for the maturity of puberty to arrive.

My advice to women who are dating them, jump ship!

If you stay with them, here is the fairy tale to save them that has been in the movie IA and saving nemo. But maybe after this story you won’t.

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Now Geppetto wanted a son. But he wasn’t ready to breed one yet because his temperament was great. The example of his own parents did not teach him enough to be a good father. But he made a sound anyway.

Now like father like son, Pinocchio was a rogue like his old man. Which made things worse for him. Every time Pinocchio got into trouble, he reminded Geppetto of the shame and trouble he brought to his own father. This only made him angrier at Pinocchio. Once in public, he saw Geppetto beating Pinocchio. For which he was sent to prison.

During this time, Pinocchio raised himself. He dedicated himself to doing whatever he wanted. Jumping through streams, valleys and fields. He is always on the lookout for the police who were originally after him the day Geppetto was arrested.

One day Pinocchio returns home to find a cricket talking to him. This Cricket has lived in the house for a hundred years. He warns Pinocchio that if he doesn’t learn to make a living with his hands and mind, he will turn into an ass. Then Pinocchio throws a hammer at him and kills him.

This Cricket was a diminutive version of Merlin. The old wise man who lives in our mind. They can also be real outsiders talking about what we know we should be doing. It is like the angel on one shoulder being brought down by promises of fun and easy activities from the devil on the other. But both are our friends who come to us in our youth. Like Merlin advising Arthur before he drew the sword of manhood and direction from the stone, the Cricket had come to teach this boy how to be a good King in his own life.

Thus begins the long and arduous road to redemption for Pinocchio. He becomes like many believing that the devil’s path of denial and comfort will take him to heaven. But the devil will be his friend. Like his father, Pinocchio will also find himself in prison eventually.

So Pinocchio, without a job or education, finds himself hungry at home alone. Except for a single egg in the corner. He opens it to cook an omelet. But a Chick flies out and thanks him for his help and he flies away.

The egg is the symbol of the soul, and his is split. The chick, as in Easter, is the resurrection of our redemption in better people. Which is far from coming for our little Pinocchio. This is the first of many bird references within the story. Many refer to alchemy, which is the spiritual practice of turning the lead in your soul into gold, as the secret language of birds.

Giving up for the night, Pinocchio falls asleep with his feet on the foot warmer in which he hoped to cook the omelette. Being made of wood, he woke up in the morning to find that his feet were burned. The feet is the symbol of the paternal foundation, which he does not have.

Geppetto is released from prison that morning to find his son alone in the house. Geppetto has no key to enter and calls Pinocchio. But Pinocchio cannot reach the door. He is reluctant to let the father back in. But Geppetto enters through the window and feels very guilty about letting Pinocchio get up on his own. He ignores his son’s refusal to let him in and promises to make him new feet. He also gives Pinocchio the only three pears of his and crashes himself. Pinocchio eats them all without sharing any.

Pinocchio is so grateful for the pears that he promises to go to school and become a good boy. So Geppetto sells his only coat, being a skinny old man cost him a lot, so Pinocchio can buy an ABC book. But before Pinocchio can buy that book, he spends his money on a puppet show.

In the puppet show, the puppets treat him like a brother. But the puppeteer finds it and wants to use it as firewood to cook his food. Pinocchio talks his way out of it, but the puppeteer asks for Harlequin to be placed on the fire. But Pinocchio pleads for the life of his new brother and saves him. For his kindness, the puppeteer gives Pinocchio five gold coins for his poor coatless father.

Pinocchio means well. He has shown compassion for his brother, but society is a bad mistress. Far worse than any nature lover pretended to be with his storms and famines. Because society is full of cats and foxes waiting to take advantage of your desires and weaknesses.

Pinocchio is attracted by a fox with a missing leg and a blind cat. Seduced by the belief that beyond the town of Simple Simons there was a field. A field that is so magical that it is called the Field of Wonders. That if someone put a gold coin buried inside, they would plant thousands in its place in the morning.

A bird tries to warn Pinocchio about this deception, but this blind cat catches it out of the air and eats it for its troubles. Instinct is overcome by greed.

So Pinocchio travels with his new friends a short distance from this field. The devil promised a short cut, but as Pinocchio discovers that the devil’s short cut always makes one tired. So our group drops into an inn for the night.

The fox who couldn’t think of eating more than a biscuit eats an ox. Where the cat that says he ate before his journey tonight falls to eat the herd from which the ox came. But Pinocchio, who is lost in his dreams, loses his hunger. The group gets up at night.

Pinocchio wakes up in the middle of the night so that his friends continue in the field. But they left the card and a message to meet them under a tree in that field. Pinocchio’s first gold coin is lost.

Along the way he meets the cricket once again. Just like Merlin, Gandolf and, you will soon find out, Dumbledore have come back from the dead to advise us. The voice that we ignore telling us the right thing has never gone away. It could be the voice of your dead grandfather. Only once in a while do we allow it to creep in to advise us to ignore our ego and do the right thing. But he doesn’t make promises and asks for a job. The cricket warns Pinocchio once again that wealth only comes from the work of the mind and the hand. But he falls on wooden ears.

At the tree, Pinocchio is confronted by some assassins who are trying to steal his money. Pinocchio places it in his mouth and bites off their hand when they try to steal it. These killers were the cat and the fox in disguise. So they capture Pinocchio and hang him by the neck from a large oak tree. Expecting to find him dead in the morning with his mouth open and the coins scattered on the floor.

The Hanged Man in tarot cards is taken from the myth of Odin who gave himself up in a tree for nine nights to gain enlightenment. It is the act of dying to self that brings with it a new job, the ending of a habit, or the courage to leave our abusive spouse. It is the act of killing the Miss Smiths just to become Joan. The act of leaving work to become Frank. It is the sacrifice of what is killing us no faster than the cigarette.

An old axiom is that if you want to boil a frog, you should turn the heat up slowly. Most of what kills us in life comes so slowly that it’s easy to deny.

But a fairy who denied him access to her home when he was on the run from killers now feels sorry for him. She sends a falcon to free him and return him to her house. She this is the woman who can only fall for the bad boy. Someone she can save. This urge tends to grow in a child when one parent doesn’t act like it and falls into the abuse of the world or the other parent. Then the boy becomes an adult for soon in vain attempts to save the father. Hoping that the father loves them and saves them. When they find themselves unable to save the parents, they try to save the world.

But not everything is sweetness and light, since like their parents, they have a dark side. Every victim needs a killer and the king is the fool’s twin. The tables turn quickly in this world.

An owl, a crow and the cricket return to cure our almost dead Pinocchio. The Owl and the Raven are the airbags of wealth and position that the youth of our society must admire in order to become. But Pinocchio knows the truth, if education and work make you like them, he wants none of it. But Cricket abuses him one more for his sins.

Being half dead the Fairy tries to give him medicine. This medicine is trying to point out Pinocchio’s faults so that he can change his life. But he won’t hear any of it without the sugar of the sweaty tongue. Praising him for doing better, Pinocchio never hears his faults until two black rabbits enter the room with a coffin.

How many times does one come close to prison, death or suicide before changing their behavior. He’s straight up scared. But it becomes too much for the young man to continue without the constant fear of death on his mind. So relapse is imminent for these people.

Always two steps forward, three steps back. The abuser in the codependent relationship is always sorry the next day and treats his partner like a god or a queen for a couple of weeks until society pulls the rug back from him. And again in the abuse of his partner.

Now The Blue Fairy wants to save her father and Pinocchio and has sent for Geppetto to move. The woman in this relationship not only sees her partner but also her father in him that she wants to save.

So he asks Pinocchio about his money. Like the Irish women in Ireland in the thirties, they knew their men would spend their stoppage at the bar if they didn’t go with them. So she asks where is the money? She says that she lost it and her nose grows. Only to have the woodpeckers cut him down when she confesses.

We have a side note. I knew a woman who went from one codependent relationship to another. She did a lie detector test to find out if you had been drinking. She would grow more than your nose and check the salt content in your semen. More salty, more you drank.

But on the way to Geppetto, he meets the cat and the fox again. They convince him to go with them to the field to bury the coins once more. But Pinocchio again ignores his instinct when he sees that the cat is missing a leg. Oh good.

Now they walk through Simple Simon Town. A town like a crack alley. Filled with animals who gave everything they owned for an instant fix in this world. Hairless dogs, featherless peacocks, and sheared sheep. The only ones who traveled in fine cadillacs were the foxes, ravens and vultures that fed on these people. The pimps, dealers, bosses, bad parents and politicians. Passing the town they go to the Field of Wonders where Pinocchio buries his money.

He returns in the morning to find a parrot who laughs at him for believing the cat and the fox. So he runs back to town to report the robbery, but he himself is sent to jail. Like father Like Son. Swearing that he did nothing wrong because he was just consummate in his own downfall. To be continue……