Have you ever been cheated on?

I got it, and boy does it hurt!

Here are some keys to survive.

Ask questions

You may need all the factual details of the case. how do they wear? When did you meet? How often did they meet? How long did the affair last? How many times did they meet? How much money did they spend? Etc. Getting answers to all your questions can change your perception of why your partner did what she did. It can shed some light on the hidden weakness in your marriage.

Control your anger earlier while you get information

It’s natural to want to cry, scream, and lash out, but emotions can prevent your partner from divulging all the necessary details of the affair. The full disclosure required to lead to the survival of infidelity may be compromised. It is important to try to maintain your composure to get to the bottom of the truth. The only way your partner will reveal everything is if you don’t attack every time you have the talk. Some couples who have had affairs are too afraid to tell the other person everything because they suspect that the downward spiral of emotions will lead to a big fight.

Talk about how infidelity has affected you

Talk about your feelings. Make sure you don’t leave anything out. Any doubts, feelings of abandonment and betrayal, sadness, anger, disappointment at surviving infidelity must be discussed. As he puts all his cards on the table, she allows her partner to build a wall between themselves and her ex-lover. He opens a window of opportunity for the two of you to work things out.

Don’t forget or forgive easily

Don’t let something so important slip away easily. Understand and acknowledge their hurt and anger. Take time to rebuild trust before genuinely forgiving your partner.

seek support

Reconnect with your friends and family and join a support group if necessary. You will feel less isolated and alone while surviving infidelity.

Spend time with your partner to heal

Go back in time and remember all the things you enjoyed doing as a couple. Reconnect as friends and then as romantic partners to heal together and move on from infidelity. It’s not going to happen overnight. You will need to give your partner some time and space to make it up to you and rebuild trust. However, when the opportunity arises, spending time together without discussing the matter will make the process much easier.

forgive when you’re ready

Don’t be pressured by your partner or anyone else to forgive and forget if you’re not really ready. Otherwise, you will never forget the affair and the painful memories attached to it. However, after taking time off and dealing with the pain, you should forgive your partner even if you decide to break up. Forgiveness allows us to move past our pain and helps us move forward without bitterness or negativity.

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Wendy