Men are such wonderful creatures and most of the time they are underestimated by everyone. Personally, I love men and everything about them. Since my entire theory of relationships is based on the fact that men and women are different, it seemed time to elaborate on who men are and how they came to be that way.

I had daughters, three to be exact, and my husband was a
wrestling coach So even though he was raising daughters, there were always men to watch. I now have two beautiful grandsons and a little granddaughter, Justin who is eight years old and Zak who is three and little Jordan who is two. Boys are delightfully masculine and even at the tender age of two there are some radical differences in our little girl. What is it that makes boys men? Of course there is the obvious, the male appendage which is the physical difference, but what is more noticeable is how they are in the world. Justin likes lightsaber fighting, baseball, video games and action movies and even at the age of eight, Victoria’s Secret catalogues. He says that he likes to look at pretty girls.

Zak is a swashbuckler, movie buff and Spider-Man superfan full of energy from the moment he opens his eyes until he can’t anymore. He is a daredevil and must be watched every second. Little Jordan is athletic, keeps up with the kids, and already has her daddy wrapped around her little finger. She is tough and physical, and yet she remains feminine.

What is even more significant is the way the adults in the family treat them.

Jordan dresses up in little dresses and everyone says how cute she is. Zak and Justin are t-shirt and jeans boys, they are dirty and almost always have skinned knees or bruises. And that?

I believe that boys become male at birth and it’s just
reinforced throughout his life. I once read that every man can tell you the name of the stalker who terrorized him at the age of 8. I have tested this theory and have yet to find a man who cannot come up with the name of his own stalker. Their way of dealing with these bullies was to develop a mantra that they told themselves that they are tougher, stronger and meaner than whoever is terrorizing them and they fought back. This is one of the points of differentiation between men and women. Bullies fight with words. They sabotage and stab in the back. They whisper to other girls, start rumors, and attack each other’s looks and clothes. Children use their physical prowess to bully each other.

The children play with trucks and guns. The girls play with dolls and tea.
sets Stereotypes? Perhaps, but look around you and see how
The children play. Personally, I think parents emphasize the differences even more now because they have their own fears that their children will develop sexual preferences as adults. Children are raised to produce results. Girls are raised to receive. We’ve made some progress in equalizing sexual stereotypes, but overall, not much. We instinctively have millions of years of programming to support the absolute differences between men and women. I am suggesting, just in terms of relationships, that we accept these differences and use them to make it easier for our male-female relationships to thrive.

Women no longer need men to hunt, conquer and fight for them. The technology even has the score so to speak between men and women. Make no mistake, men are still physically superior to women and that intimidates women. Women, however, can take care of themselves. Unfortunately, this creates confusion in both sexes. Women want to be independent, and yet they instinctively want men to take care of them. Men instinctively want to protect and care for women, but now they are intimidated by the idea that women want to do it themselves and therefore men don’t really know what their role should be. It is more important than ever for women to express their appetite and ask for what they want.

So who are the men? They are these wonderfully creative, industrious, productive, sensitive and charming creatures who love to build things, solve problems, satisfy their physical needs i.e. burping, farting, eating, sleeping, climaxing and playing with gadgets as well how to please the women they love. . What they are not interested in doing is talking about their relationship, guessing what their woman wants, going shopping, or being judged, disapproved, or scolded. They love sex. They love to do it, think about it, talk about it, read it and believe that sex is love.

There are two things I want to draw your attention to in the above statement, being sensible and pleasing the woman you love. Yes, I think men are sensitive, extremely sensitive to be exact. I think they hurt their feelings maybe more easily than women. The difference is that they don’t show it. They don’t cry or get angry, they just stick it in and back off to lick their wounds until they heal and they’re ready to go out and fight the good fight again. I think men feel slighted when one of their projects is taken for granted. They feel hurt and doubt their production when they are looked at for a promotion. I think a woman can sweep them away with a look, or an innocent comment like “You did what?” or if she doesn’t notice, she approves or appreciates her efforts on her behalf. I think that men are always trying to please women and their biggest dilemma is that they have no idea how to please any woman because women think differently than men.

I think men appreciate women who tell them what they want.
them to do. I think men appreciate women who are honest with
them and they don’t play games. I believe that men are attracted to women who have an appetite for pleasure and women who demonstrate their pleasure both verbally and physically. I think men think when they are rejected by a woman that the woman doubts her production (money, success, sex as in erections) in some way, whereas a woman would immediately think that she is not attractive enough. I believe that a man does not inherently know how to physically please a woman, and that every woman is different, therefore every woman should teach her her man. Finally, I believe that men would do almost anything for sex.

Based on what I believe to be true about men, how do men get what they want? If a man wants to be with a specific woman, he must get in front of her so that she can notice him. Women notice men by their presence. Oh, sure appearances play a part, but honestly, I think a man’s energy and performance is what really attracts a woman. The most beautiful man in the world can be in front of you, but if he is a weasel or a coward, those looks will not give him what he wants.

A man wants a woman he can give himself to. He wants a woman that he can tell the truth to and know that no matter what mistakes she has made or how foolish she has been, she will approve of him and she will continue to believe in him. He wants a woman who is turned on because he is in the room. He wants a best friend, a reliable partner, and a woman who will tell him what he wants and let him be right when he gets it for her. He wants a woman who is charming to his friends, a great mother to his children, and a whore in the bedroom. He wants a woman he can please and it is only possible to please a woman who knows what he wants and asks for it.

I have this wonderful male client who is looking for a woman to
share your life. He’s industrial, he’s in good physical shape, he’s got this
deep integrity inherent in his beliefs, he is intelligent, funny and very sensitive. He is 40 years old, wants to get married and have children. I have told her that there is a woman (actually many women) in the world who is looking for a nice guy who just wants to be with her. He is afraid of meeting new women due to his own perceived ability to produce results, as well as fear of rejection.

What bothers me about this situation is that there are millions of women who want a man and millions of men who want a woman and
neither of them knows how to start a relationship. me
I wish all of you would respond and tell me what does it take to get them interested? What does a man or woman have to do to get your attention? How would you like a relationship to start?

It seems to me that relationships can be easy, if both sexes
recognize and believe in others, ask for what they want and appreciate what they receive. If men surrender to the power of women in managing the relationship and women surrender to letting men be men and take care of them. Finally, if both sexes recognize that sex plays an important role in true intimacy, that both men and women love sex equally, and that neither knows how to please the other until they come clean and tell each other.

There is hope.